Black women have not been allowed to be both Black and female. Historically, we have had to choose our race over our gender. We have not talked about our pain in order to protect our Black men's dignity.
When I published, My Husband Didn’t Make Me Happy, my inbox was flooded with emails. I was surprised, by the number of comments and emails I received from people who thought that me valuing my own happiness was selfish. Weak. Greedy. Immature. Who was I, to have the audacity to expect and demand happiness?
I am an addict. I have textbook addiction. According to the American Society of Addiction Medicine, addiction is characterized by the inability to consistently abstain, impairment in behavioral control, cravings, a diminished recognition of significant problems with one’s behaviors and interpersonal relationships, and a dysfunctional emotional response. Yep, that’s me.